Co Sleeping Benefits ... and the Downside
Co sleeping is such a wonderful experience. It can actually help you and your baby sleep more, protects your baby, makes night feedings easier and improves bonding. But let's look at some downsides too.You may be a convinced co sleeper. Or, if you are like me and so many other parents, you have probably ended up with baby in your bed every now and then.
You know, when after the so manieth night feeding your baby refuses to go back to sleep for hours, and just cries.
Desperate, feeling guilty, you put her next to you in bed and ... she dozes off so peacefully. That is the power of co sleeping: your baby feels safe and secure and that works like a magic sleep potion.
--- Remember, this occasional co sleeping is fine, and it can be a real life saver to get at least some sleep but please, please make sure to take all co-sleeping safety precautions! ---
--- If you're worried to install bad habits, check the cosleeping downsides below ---
Co Sleeping Benefits
Regularly sharing the family bed with your baby has interesting advantages for both you and your baby:- Baby sleeps better: all babies sleep better when they feel safe and secure. Especially in those first months, your presence is all the reassurance she needs to become confident at sleeping.
- Baby is safer: in those first months, your presence when baby sleeps is a top protector in the battle against SIDS, or cot death. SIDS studies show that your presence somehow helps regulate baby's breathing and heart rate. And it allows you to react (instinctively) when something goes wrong. See preventing SIDS guidelines for more on avoiding SIDS.
- Parents sleep better: most parents - even many not so keen on the family bed - sleep better with their baby near: it feels secure to feel and hear baby close by (without having to get up and go check 10s of times each night). A cosleeper crib takes away the worries some have with having baby in their bed.
- No-fuss night feedings: when breast feeding: just draw baby closer to feed, then gently shift her back. This disturbs both her and your sleep the least (as opposed to getting up, going to the crib, getting out of the crib, off to feed, back in the crib, ... waking you all up completely), also when bottle feeding.
- Bonding with baby: being so close to your baby when sleeping & waking at night is a great way to improve bonding.
- Breastfeeding: co sleeping often makes it easier to keep breastfeeding, which again benefits both you and your baby.
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Co Sleeping Downsides
Sharing the family bed can be lovely, yes. But I still think it is important to have a look at some downsides too. Because it doesn't work out for everyone. And it does not make sense to rave about how great something is, without also thinking of what could be less great. That will help you make your own best choice.- Safety hazards: if cosleeping is not done safely, there is a risk for your baby to die - when you roll on top of her or she gets covered under the blankets.
- Restless sleep for baby: some babies - especially from 4-6 months onwards, are very lightly awakened by their parent's movements.
- Restless sleep for you: you may not sleep so comfortably or deeply with baby near you.
- Difficult transition to crib: at some point, your baby or toddler cosleeping will need to transition to his own bed. This can be difficult.
- Parental privacy: as a couple, you and your partner may feel you loose too much of your privacy and intimacy when sharing your bed with your child(ren).
The safety issue is easy to remedy but very important (sorry if I say it again and again!): when you follow all co-sleeping safety guidelines, cosleeping is safe for your baby.
If safety is your main worry, a cosleeper bedside crib is the ideal solution.
About the 'bad habit': it's true that some babies, and toddlers, will love sleeping in your family bed SO much, that transitioning to their own crib or bed gets tricky. That's why, if you decide to cosleep regularly, both you and your partner must be convinced 100%. So if transitioning takes a bit longer than you first thought, you will not mind too much.
Also, most babies actually transition quite easily under 1 year old. Later on, towards toddler hood it is a good exercise in 'learning to accept rules'. With your gentle guidance, your child can then learn to sleep in his own ('big kid') bed, when you feel the time is right.
Again a cosleeper can help by getting your baby used to being in her own crib, while still next to you.
Whether you co sleep or not is a very very personal choice. It can be an absolute no-no! for some, and a of course! for others. And you can plan enthusiastically before baby is born, only to find yourself doing the exact opposite once she is there ...
Both are good options, as long as you do what feels best for you and your family. Don't hesitate to ask me here if you are hesitating.
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