Silja's Sleep Diary: thirteen weeks old
Written by Taru, Silja's mom
At thirteen weeks old Silja
sleeps quite well, although her sleep is often light and she
wakes up easily. Her mother decides not to start cosleeping. Silja's
naps become a bit more solid ...
Quite obviously, the magic of the cloth diapers has worn off a bit, and
on most nights this week Silja has woken up once. She did sleep through very well -
from 10pm to 6am! -
twice, but on most nights she's
asleep around 9pm and then been up at around 4am or a bit earlier. I'm
still happy about that of course.
I'm noticing that, now at thirteen weeks old it's not
so straightforward to put her to sleep at night
she seems to
sleep very lightly
for a long time, and then only goes on
to deeper sleep if she's been completely undisturbed for a good while.
So there's absolutely no reading newspapers in the bedroom in the
evening, or any other rustling sound. To my husband's profound
disappointment, the sound of a condom wrapper being opened sends her
through the roof (well that was probably a bit more information than
you really needed ...).
Baby sleep patterns at thirteen weeks old
Well, anyway, before
Silja falls asleep at night
she usually has a very good,
long feed and nods off at the breast. I can tell she's going to go to
sleep when she doesn't open her eyes when I burp her against my
This nursing to sleep
is not exactly what I planned, as I thought it would be better if she
learned to settle herself in her cot, but that seems to be the only way
for now to settle her for a good, deep sleep.
My husband wanted to try
settling her down with a dummy
again one night, and she
did fall asleep after a while. She still really doesn't like taking a
dummy, it's more like a wrestling match than going to sleep as I know
it, but at least it tired her out without her getting too upset ...
But then she was up at 2am and not very happy about it, and again at
4am. So even more - although clearly less severe - disappointment for
Twice this week after a night feed Silja has been really wide awake,
and once I felt too tired to stay awake for another second. Putting her
in her cot requires a lot of grumbling and finger sucking and rolling
about (although she eventually sleeps there quite happily) and
I just wasn't up to that this time.
So instead of putting her to her cot to go to sleep - I just cuddled her close and we
both went to sleep right away
I used to have both of my bigger kids in my bed quite a lot when they
were babies, and it feels lovely. But this time I'm not so
keen on cosleeping
as I find I just don't go into deep, restful sleep if Silja is right
next to me. She doesn't seem to sleep as deeply either, and after an
hour or so she was back in her cot ...
Better naps with better nappies
Although they have not been quite as magical - but still very helpful -
this week, I think the
new reusable nappies may have helped Silja to take better naps during
As I write, she's now had a really good, at least 2-hour nap every
morning, and at least an hour in the afternoon, and sleeping in the
buggy is definitely a favourite.
I can't help thinking, though, that this is probably because the cloth
diapers are so bulky that she can't move as much as with disposables.
On the last day with disposables, she worked very hard on turning to
her side and finally managed to get on her tummy, but she hasn't done
that since then.
It's a pretty brutal choice - should
I compromise my thirteen weeks old baby's motor development for better
(and for saving the planet of course)? For now
better sleep (and the planet) wins, and I'm not too bothered - I'm
quite sure that in the end she'll develop enough muscle to move her
bulky bottom, too.