your No Cry Sleep Solution book was your first, and still the
best known book in your No Cry series. Can you summarize the essence of
the No Cry Sleep Solution and the main reasons for the success so many
As a mom of four
I struggled with my own children’s sleep issues. I’m a sensitive Mom,
and I can’t bear to let my children cry – but I’m also a busy mom who
needs her sleep! It was from my own needs that The No-Cry Sleep
Solution was born. I gathered a group of Test Moms with non-sleeping
babies and gradually discovered a whole series of solutions that don’t
including making a baby (or a Mommy) cry.
a parent to a healthy 6 month old baby who has troubles self soothing
and sleeping for longer stretches wants to start with the No Cry Sleep
Solution. What will be the steps she will go through?
The first thing
to understand is that every baby is unique and sleep problems are
different for every family. A one-size-fits-all solution usually
doesn’t fit all babies! So the first step is to do a one-day sleep log
and take a good look at the results to determine your babies exact
problems, whether it’s taking a long time to fall asleep or waking up
every hour to breastfeed. Once a parent identifies their baby’s issues
they can then review all the different solutions and put together a
custom plan of solutions.
of the much appreciated aspects of the No Cry Sleep Solution to me,
is that you address all ‘types’ of parents. Even though the approach is
very close to attachment parenting, also parents who are not AP-minded
at all, can connect and find their no-cry path. How do you manage to
reconcile very different approaches?
parenting philosophy all parents have things in common – they love
their babies, they don’t like to hear them cry, and they want their
baby to get adequate sleep. Babies are also alike in so many ways – for
example, they all need a typical amount of naps and night sleep. Once
we realize this we can see that our end goals are very much alike.
of today’s parents were raised with the belief that some, and sometimes
a lot, crying is simply unavoidable. Their own parents often try to
convince them that any no-cry solution will spoil the child and may
even encourage waking up at night. How do you help uncertain young
parents overcome such doubts?
A baby’s only way
to communicate their distress, pain or difficulty is through their
tears. When a baby cries and we respond we tell them that the world is
a good place and their needs will be heard. If a baby is left to cry
for long periods without any response he may give up and fall asleep –
but it is just that – giving up. I believe it’s better to respond to
babies and help them learn to fall asleep on their own without the
distress of allowing them to cry.
there any examples or situations where you would agree with those paediatricians
and sleep experts who say that (some) crying is necessary to teach
babies how to sleep well?
Nope! From my
experience all babies can learn to sleep better without having to
suffer the pain of crying to sleep.
newest book, the No Cry Separation Anxiety Solution touches another
extremely important aspect of a young child’s life: the fear of not
seeing a loved one again. We see it in young babies too and it is often
a hidden sleep disturbance. A baby who had been sleeping through the
night consistently, suddenly wakes up frequently again, or has problems
settling at night. What are your best tips for good sleep in spite of
baby separation anxiety?
If a child has
always been a good sleeper, but suddenly the bedtime routine is filled
with battles, and she gets scared when you leave the room and cries for
you during the night, then she could have separation anxiety issues. For a number of
children, typically between the first and third birthday, fear of being
alone becomes a cause for these new bedtime problems. If you think
about it, the longest separation between you and your child is during
nighttime sleep when the two of you are apart for ten to twelve hours.
During this time your child will have a number of normal brief
awakenings from sleep, when she’ll open her eyes and realize that she’s
all alone. This same thing happens every night, so when your child
knows that this long separation is about to occur it may create
struggles at bedtime.
A quiet, loving
bedtime routine can be very helpful. A stuffed animal sleeping buddy
can also be comforting to a child. Keeping your own positive attitude
will convey a good message to your child.