Which Baby Sleep Method is Right for You?
Author Name: Heidi Holvoet, PhD
A
sleep method
gives you guidance to help your
baby sleep. Some methods can be called
baby sleep
training
(typically
the harsher or more impatient methods). I personally prefer terms like
approach, techniques, support and guidance for the gentle method that I
work with.
Ferber
method, No Cry Sleep Solution, Dr. Sears, Baby Whisperer, controlled
crying,
cold turkey
crying it out ... or yours truly, the BabySleepAdvice approach:
which one is right
for you and your baby?
Each method has its own general
philosophy and approach to sleep in general. Some suggest specific help
in specific situations.
To be
reliable and have a chance to be successful, a baby sleep (training) method must be based on the same most valuable sleep
parenting principles:
- be consistent and predictable
- use a regular sleep schedule
- use a bedtime routine
- promote self soothing
- take a positive attitude towards sleep
Overwhelmed?
It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused
by the many baby sleep
articles and books on the market. Unfortunately there are many,
sometimes conflicting and sometimes bluntly incorrect sources.
Do be careful with
paid
click-here-to-order
solutions that
guarantee
to
help your baby sleeping through the night
(yes even at an age where it is physically impossible or even
unhealthy ...).
Your best bet is to go with
your
instincts
, observe your baby/toddler well and do not let others
talk
you into something that does not feel right for you.
The different sleep methods
on the market
each take their
own
approach
to apply the basic principles and instruct parents how
to apply them.
Please (please!) be very careful if you come across a
quick-fix
magical solution that
promises a short-cut and omits any one of the above principles. They
will do more harm than good for your child's sleep, especially in the
long run.
Key differences
among the methods are in whether letting baby cry or not, help her with
settling or not,
co-sleeping or not, etc.
Since we're all different, no single method works for all babies or
toddlers and their families. What counts is to find out what works for
you.
An overview of popular and renowned approaches:
Heidi Holvoet, PhD & BabySleepAdvice: Uniquely adapted to your baby's personal needs + truly without tears
Helping you find that unique best-fit way to help your baby or toddler
sleep is at the heart of this
website. It is my very personal mission and passion to guide you
through
best-practice basics and helping you
discover the specific techniques YOU and YOUR baby need, at a time you're both ready for them.
The many available modifications within the techniques, designed to ultimately suit your baby's needs are an essential and
much-loved part of the method, as well as its being
truly
without tears.
Start at these pages for general guidance with the basics:
help
your baby sleep through the night
and
avoid
common infant sleep problems
.
My dedicated e-books take it a few steps further and help you
efficiently improve
in specific situations:
No-Tears
Sleeping Through the Night
helps your baby or toddler wean from
unnecessary night awakenings
and feeds.
Overcome Frequent Waking
takes that a step further with a uniquely tailored sleep action plan
for those babies who wake up every hour or otherwise too frequently at
night.
No-Tears
Self Soothing
helps you teach your baby or toddler the
all-important skill of settling independently - the key of lasting good
sleep.
Nap
in a Snap
gives you the tools and techniques to set up the nap
routine that works for your baby/toddler.
If you are just starting out with a new baby, a good beginning is to
read up on the very basics in my
Complete
Newborn Sleep Guide
-
"Just
what I needed right now as a first time mom"
.
The No Cry Sleep Solution
This sleep method, originally proposed in the book
The
No-Cry Sleep Solution
,
is the work of Elizabeth Pantley, the well-known parent educator.
As the
no
cry sleep
name suggests, Elizabeth Pantley promotes gentle
guidance to
help baby sleep without the need to let her cry. She sets parents to
work with keeping logs on nap and night time sleep and wakings. While many parents see successes with this approach, parents regularly report to me that they found it difficult to follow through.
Don't miss my
No
Cry Sleep Solution interview with Elizabeth
!
The
Attachment
Parenting Approach to Sleep
Known for its child-centered nurturing approach, attachment parenting
advocates gentle guidance towards good sleep at baby's pace.
Crying is not part of the attachment parenting approach, but baby
wearing,
co-sleeping and breastfeeding are key features.
Co
sleeping benefits
are widely accepted and safe when the
co-sleeping
safety guidelines
are well followed.
Dr. Sears describes this in his
well known book
The
Baby Sleep Book
. Even if you
are not completely into attachment parenting, this is a good resource
if you are looking for support to guide your baby in a loving
child-centered way.
My interview
with Annie of PhDInParenting.com on
attachment
parenting and baby sleep
gives an interesting introduction
to attachment parenting
and
its approach to sleep
guidance.
The Baby Whisperer
In her book,
Secrets
of the Baby Whisperer
, Tracy
Hogg suggests a sleep training method that keeps an interesting
middle
, balance, between no cry
sleep
methods as above and the crying it out ones below.
Tracy Hogg specialized in
tuning
in
to baby to help understand what she needs, and helped
parents observe and listen to their children.
When teaching baby to sleep alone, rather than holding, nursing and
rocking, the
baby
whisperer method
suggests comforting by picking baby up, and
putting
down as often as needed until she sleeps (pu/pd method).
The Ferber Method
Note:
This is a sleep training method that involves crying it out and I do not advise nor support it.
Through his book
Solve
Your Child's Sleep Problems
, Richard
Ferber, M.D. advises
all parents to use his sleep training method that became known as
ferberizing
. Many
people identify crying it out with this Ferber sleep method, although
it is not the only one where baby is left to cry.
The Ferber
method involves letting baby cry, in the so-called
progressive
waiting
approach. This may not pose as a
cold turkey
cry it out method, but it remains controversial due to lots of crying involved and I do not support it.
Crying It Out
Crying it out is the general term used when baby is left to cry as a
method
to teach her how to settle for sleep, or to
make
her sleep.
Crying it out is sometimes part of established sleep training (for example
Ferber method) or some parents simply have their babies cry when they
feel it is necessary or helpful.
We do not count letting baby fuss for a couple of minutes as crying
it out. It's about leaving a baby to cry for longer than just 'initial
fussing'. Some training methods do this in varying amount of minutes
and/or also involve the harsh
cold turkey
crying
it out. That is when you put baby down in the crib, leave the room,
close the door and do not go back in before baby has slept the night.
I repeat, I do not support these types of methods and include them here for information and warning purposes only.
There are infamous
pro's
and con's of crying it out
as well as situations where it
should be out of the question or
when
cry it out could be an option
.
Finding a baby sleep method or sleep train method that really works for
your
baby or toddler may not be easy.
Of course you don't necessarily need a specific
market method
to guide you. The
main step in any case will be to trust your instincts. Approach sleep
parenting in YOUR way all while keeping supported by researched
information and proven tips and techniques.
I warmly invite you to read through the different topics on this site.
It will help build your understanding of the why and how of sleep, and
will help you discover what will work for you.
Never hesitate
to
Ask
me
A Question!
any time.
Article Author: Heidi Holvoet, PhD - Founder, senior sleep consultant
Heidi Holvoet, PhD, is the founder of the Baby Sleep Advice website and movement, an award-winning author, baby & toddler sleep consultant with 15+ years experience as well as a certified lactation counselor.
Over the years, Heidi has received several awards inluding a Mom's Choice Award (MCA) and National Parenting Awards (NAPPA) for her Baby Sleep Advice website, programs and books. Also, Baby Sleep Advice was awarded "Most Trusted Infant's Sleep Solutions Company 2023" in the Benelux Enterprise Awards 2023.
Heidi continually conducts personal research and participates in continued education and in that way stays up to date with current scientific and pyschosocial infant care.
She is also a member of the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants of which she was one of the earliest contributors. She obtained her PhD degree in physics at the University of Ghent in Belgium.
Heidi is passionate about helping babies and their parents sleep more and better, with her trademark approach that has been proven and praised time and again by parents worldwide to be effective and truly no-tears. Respect for you as a parent and your baby, is at the heart of Heidi's warm and kind support. Her approach always keeps in mind a baby's needs and abilities at any given age, is based on pediatric science and the most up to date knowledge in infant care and sleep science.
As well as the award-winning baby sleep programs, Heidi also offers in-depth 1:1 consults (email to enquire) and easy-access 30-minute SOS Sleep sessions.
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