By offering the right environment we can guide baby's
sleeping patterns towards optimal sleep habits, see below.
Baby's
sleep patterns are such a great help in understanding why so many
babies do not sleep like parents would want them to: sleeping
simply is a skill that takes a while to develop.
Luckily we can guide our little loved ones in the right direction.
Typical Baby Sleep Patterns by Age
What kind of sleep can you expect, realistically, from your baby?
Newborn
sleep patterns: a newborn has short sleep-wake cycles
throughout the day, with no difference between day and night. Her sleep
is mostly light (easily waking up). The newborn sleeping schedule is
governed by regular feeding needs.
Her sleep develops rapidly and you can help instill the day-and-night
rhythm
with a clear difference between your day (active and light) and night
routine (quiet and dim).
1 - 6
month old baby sleep patterns: Sleep continues to mature
rapidly and your baby can move into sleeping more at night than during
the day.
Feeding is still an important and necessary trigger for
waking up.
6
months - 2 year old: Your baby's sleep has
changed dramatically in the first six months and she can now finally
find a deeper sleep.
She will be awakened less easily and therefore is
able to sleep longer stretches little by little.
Notice the 'is able to': at this age, other factors besides food enter
baby's life:
there's awareness of needing mum/dad, separation
anxiety, teething,
developing important motor skills,
and tons of possible sleep
disturbances.
These sleep patterns give you a qualitative idea of your baby's
sleep. Check How
much sleep is enough? for a more specific guide about the
amount of sleep by age.
The difference
between baby sleep patterns and adult sleep
As we know - and
experience ... - a baby is not born with
matured sleep patterns adapted to the day and night cycle of our adult
lives.
The key differences
between baby and adult sleep are:
A baby spends more time in light sleep
A baby's sleep cycles are shorter (basically
waking up every 50 minutes, if we're lucky only half-awake ...)
These difference are huge and explain so much of what we see in our
babies: waking up easily
(due to light sleep) and frequently
(light sleep and physically waking up every 50 minutes).
Not all babies wake up every 50 minutes of course, some can continue to
sleep easily without waking up completely - that is the
difference between good and poor sleepers.
Only around 6 months old does a baby start sleeping deeper and it takes
a couple of years for the 50-minute cycle to grow towards the adult
90-minute cycle.
Help from
Baby Sleep Patterns
Rather than trying to break or interfere with your baby's sleep
patterns, your best bet is to reinforce and guide in the good direction.
What baby's sleep patterns tell us:
Expectations:
Sleeping well is a skill that needs time to develop. Knowing that poor
baby sleep is most probably just
physical immaturity, gives
you
realistic expectations.
Expecting your newborn to sleep through the night from the first weeks
is not realistic. Please do not feel frustrated when you hear stories
from babies who do: they honestly
are exceptions. Also, parents who realise they shouldn't
expect too much, often report the best sleep results.
The baby sleeping through the night
myth
The
term sleeping through the night is often overrated.
Officially,
sleeping through the night means 5-6 hours. This could be from 9pm till
3am: still a mini-night in adult terms!
Most babies actually do
this around the age of six months, not consistently at first and it may
take another year (or two) before they make longer nights regularly.
Accepting:
Knowing what you can expect reasonably, can help you accept
your baby's sleeping. Yes, I know this may not be the help you are
looking for: "you
just need to accept it".
But it can help you relax,
which will make you sleep and feel better and make you stronger when
coping with your baby's sleep troubles.
Better
times ahead! The best outcome when looking at sleep
patterns: baby's sleeping skills may not seem impressive at first but
it's a fact that they develop very rapidly!
So you can
count on improvement, within weeks or months.
How
to help: help reinforce the good parts of baby's sleep
patterns:
Offer
a balanced and clear daily routine. Being active when
you are and quiet
when you are, will help your baby in developing sleep-wake patterns
similar to yours.
From the
first
day, include baby in your day - for example take her shopping, she
plays while you work, she feeds quietly while you sit down,...
Recognise
sleepy
signals and arrange a recognisable but flexible baby
sleep schedule around that.
Use
active-quiet and
light-dark cues to reinforce day and night difference,
from the first days and also as your baby grows.
Breastfeed
if possible: even if breastfeeding is known to fragment
sleep a bit more than formula, overall it improves sleep. Perfectly
adapted to baby's needs, breastfeeding is light and easily digested,
resulting in sound sleep.
When bottle feeding,
choose the formula that is best suited for your baby; consult your
pharmacist or doctor.