Newborn Crying Tips
Latest update: September 24, 2018
Author: Heidi Holvoet, PhD
Your newborn crying
what lovelier sound is there to hear? Filling her lungs with air, she
lets you know she is here, loud and clear.
Crying is also the first way for your newborn to communicate with
you. In the first weeks and months after birth, crying is part
of how baby talks
to you. It lets her tell you she's hungry, uncomfortable, cold, in
pain, is sad or needs your help.
So newborn crying is very normal. Most of the time, you will very easily soothe her,
simply by giving her what she needs: a cuddle, feeding, a clean diaper, etc.
There may be times when soothing your crying baby is not so easy.
Many newborn babies have a so-called crying time,
usually in late afternoon or evening. For no apparent reason,
a baby then cries, and is not easily soothed. This is what most people
refer to with baby colic. There is no
unique explanation for it and it is not necessarily related to cramps
or any other digestion problem.
in infants usually starts around 3 weeks old, peaks at 6 to 8
and most babies grow out of it by the age of 3 or 4 months.
What to do?
Soothe your baby as much as you can. Many parents worry about holding
their babies too much, fearing they will spoil them but no
worries. Research shows that babies cannot be spoilt until the age of 8
months old. A tiny baby needs your help and reassurance and you can
give her all of that, without holding back. Of course always in
accordance with how you feel and what you feel is right.
Classic tricks to help
soothe your crying newborn are all good: holding and
rocking, (breast)feeding, singing a lullaby,
holding and walking her through the room, put her in the stroller and
go for walk, put her in the car seat and go for a drive, use a baby
sling, a baby swing, a rocking chair, etc.br>
What helps a lot when trying to soothe a crying baby is when you are calm and relaxed
yourself. Which is not always easy with a crying baby nearby, I know.
Taking a few long deep breaths can help, and remember that you are
helping your baby. Don't take it personal, she is not trying to annoy
you, she can't help it either. If you have your partner or anyone else
around, do not hesitate to have them try to soothe your baby.
Cry Baby - Crying Excessively
So it's absolutely normal for your newborn to be crying. Some
though, will cry more than average without any apparent reason. Many
call these darlings cry
cry baby is a very tough challenge for parents.
When is a baby crying excessively?
A cry baby cries excessively:
more than 'normal' for a baby of her age. Because all babies are so
different, defining 'normal' is not easy.
Often, to give caretakers and parents and indication, Wessel's rule of threes
is used: a baby cries excessively when she:
- cries more than 3 hours a day
for at least 3 days a week
for more than 3 weeks in a row
A cry baby is also often restless,
over stretches and many times screams rather than cries. Many cry
communicate very little, it is hard to get through to them.
Use all the above tips to soothe your baby. Seek help, consult
your pediatrician or general practitioner to make sure the crying does
not have an apparent medical reason: sometimes there is, sometimes
Don't hesitate to seek help for yourself too, accept help from family
and friends and get medical help if you require it. You can also contact
me here for support and advice.
Carrying your baby in a baby
sling can be very effective to soothe a cry baby and keep her
as comfortable as possible.
If you can, consult a
good osteopath or chiropractor, specialised to
work with babies.
Many moms of cry babies
have had difficult pregnancies and most often a difficult delivery.
Baby can have a bone, vertebra or nerve stuck somehow, build up some
tensions in that tiny little body, and that can make
her very uncomfortable, and cry. A good osteopath can spot and treat
this kind of problem and many parents have reported having a whole new
baby after just a few sessions.
See the Cranial
Osteopathy Therapy Checklist to quickly see if it could help you
Newborn Crying It Out?
Crying it out as a sleep
to soothe your baby or to make her sleep is not suited for a newborn.
At later ages, there are many different opinions, pro's and con's, but it is not OK to let a newborn cry
it out. It will not help or teach your baby
anything, but may harm her.
you have tried all you can to soothe her, are tired and exhausted
yourself and simply cannot bring yourself to try and soothe her?
Then you have to try and find a professional, or a friend or family member who can help you.
Failing that, at any moment when
you just cannot take it anymore: put your baby
down in her crib, make sure she is
safe. Then take a few moments for yourself: take several long deep breaths and allow yourself to calm down before returning to your baby.
Check on your baby often to make sure she is alright. Use all
the above advice to help improve how you feel and your newborn crying.
Never hesitate to contact me for support.
To help teach your new baby the right sleeping
skills, you may find my free Complete
Newborn Sleep Guide useful.