Sometimes all
you need to help your baby
sleep through the night is one simple trick. Or you might
experiment with several baby sleep tips and find out what works well
for your baby.
There are a lot of sleeping tips for helping baby
sleep
through the night. I am gathering the ones that are doable and
effective here. That means that I or another parent have
tried them out
personally with success.
As usual, there is no magic. No tip can ever
guarantee that your baby will sleep all night. But you can create the
best chances ...
Remember, it is best not to try too many changes
at the same time. And give each experiment a week or so to
see how it
works. Also, before trying any tricks, do check that you have the basics in place, such as well suited sleep schedule and bedtime routine.
It
is good to remember that, especially for a newborn
sleeping and
in the first months, night
feedings are natural and quite necessary. Baby's tiny body
is not ready to be without food for a 7 to 12 hour night. Feeding a
young baby extra full in the hope of a longer night may
even be
dangerous and increase the risk of SIDS
(Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).
Gradually
the time
your child can be without food will become longer. Most babies will be
ready to sleep through the night - for about 6 to 8 hours - between
six and twelve months. Some much earlier, some much later.
Night awakenings are
not always about food of course. Waking up at night all alone in a dark
room can be quite scary, and your baby may need you to reassure her.
So she
will cry for
you. Not to play tricks on you - not yet ... ;) - but simply because
she needs you. It is your decision how far you go along in that. But
it's good to know that, at this age, it is still very natural for your
baby to need you when waking up at night.
If you
reassure her
while consistently encouraging her to go on sleeping, she will learn
and become a confident sleeper.
Use the following ideas to reduce the number of
night awakenings and feedings, typically from six months onwards:
Make night
feedings totally uninteresting
Of course, if a night feeding becomes a real
treat, then your baby will happily wake up for it. Avoid any bright
light, keep talking and smiles to the minimum and she is less likely to
wake up unless really necessary.
Don't run in
from the first second
If your baby wakes up - and cries - give her a
few moments before rushing in. She may only be half awake, and just
need to find another comfy position to go back to sleep. If you go too
soon, you might wake her up completely, making it harder to go on
sleeping.
This would typically be about a minute. In how
far you let her cry it out after that is your decision, but she will
then probably need you for a feeding or reassuring.
No scientific evidence but from my own
experience: often it was enough for me to start getting up and the
noise of the blankets seemed to be enough to reassure my baby girl.
I've been half out of my bed many times, only to go back because I was
"too late", she'd already gone back to sleep before I got to her room.
Take turns
with your partner or another carer
- Tip for when you feel your baby does not
need (so many) night feedings anymore, typically from about six months.
If you are unsure if it is safe for your baby to feed less, it is best
to check with your doctor first. -
If baby is used to one person who will feed
her at night - either breast feeding or same person feeding formula -
she will expect to be fed when she sees that person at night.
Taking turns with someone else who will only
soothe but not feed can break that routine. He or she then simply
soothes baby back to sleep. This will help clarify whether she woke up
for feeding or reassuring.
Reduce
amount of feeding at night
- Tip for when you feel your baby does not
need (so many) night feedings anymore, typically from about six months.
If you are unsure if it is safe for your baby to feed less, it is best
to check with your doctor first. -
Make breast feeding sessions gradually
shorter,
or offer just one side. If you bottle feed: gradually reduce the amount
of formula. You can also gradually make the formula thinner, using more
water.
This way she can become less used to food at
night, and will help her need less feedings.
How
to avoid early awakenings
Earlier
bedtime for longer nights
It is all about a good sleep rhythm. If you go
to bed at the right time for your body, it will get better, and longer
sleep.
A drastic earlier night bedtime can work
wonders to help your baby sleep through the night. Many parents find
this hard to believe but trust me, and many other parents, it can work.
Changing a night bed time from 9pm to 8pm can make all the difference
between a short and a long night.
Keep lights
constant in the bedroom
Especially during summer, a bedroom can become
quite bright early in the morning. This might wake up your baby
earlier.
Dark curtains and shutters are great. For an
inbetween solution, kitchen foil and masking tape work surprisingly
well. (I used to take kitchen foil and masking tape on holidays and
they served very well for that.)
Keep the
temperature constant in the bedroom
A good bedroom temperature is around 20°C /
68°F. Also here, avoiding changes will help avoid your baby to wake up
early.
How
to get rid of the dummy
The best way to get rid of the dummy is ... never
to start with it in the first place? Well, if you have the choice, then
yes I believe it is best not to start with a dummy. That means, if your
baby is easily soothed without a dummy, don't force it on her.
A dummy may help your baby sleep through the
night. But if she wakes up and does not find it, she will probably cry
for you and break her night.
Thumb or dummy?
It's often said that a dummy is
easier to take away than a thumb. Of course, in theory it is since you
can just hide a dummy. But for your child to learn how to be without a
thumb or a dummy is very much the same.
For sleeping, a thumb is of course easier as it is
always ... ehm, at hand. Many parents with babies using a dummy end up
running up to their bedroom several times each night to help them find
their dummy.
Consistent thumb sucking is well known to be bad
for baby's teeth. Using the dummy for a long time can hamper speech
development.
Either way, most
babies make the choice
themselves: they either prefer their thumbs or take the
dummy or not.
If they don't like the dummy, they will keep spitting it out each time
you try ...
Many babies also simply suckle a couple of fingers
during their first months and then after that nothing else. This is
often so in breastfed babies.
If a dummy really benefits your baby: soothes her
and helps her sleep then of course why not use it. If you want to avoid
using it for a long time then it's best if she's not too dependent on
it:
Do not
'impose' the dummy
If she cries or is cranky, try to avoid the
dummy as the first rescue. Start with distractng her, soothing her by
holding her, ...
A baby very
quickly becomes conditioned. So if you feed
the dummy to her at the first sign of each discomfort, she will become
more dependent on it.
Have clear
rules
Very dependent on the child, but from about
six to twelve months, you can start with introducing some
rules.
For example:
dummy only during
sleeping time. Or during sleeping times and early evenings.
The younger
you start, the easier your child will accept these rules.
As he grows
older on the other hand, he will
understand the rules better. It is then a good educational
exercise: learning to be without dummy in the same way as
learning not to paint on the walls ...