"Isn't Your Baby Sleeping Through The Night?"

"Isn't your baby sleeping through the night yet?" Don’t be surprised if visitors comment on your newborn baby not sleeping before you can tell them how cute she smiles, or which baby milestones she's already taken ... society expects a lot from a baby, especially when it comes to sleep.

Let's have a look below at what sleeping through really means and what to expect at different ages.

Family and friends' questions are usually well-meaning of course: with baby sleeping through the night, you as a parent sleep better too. And with baby not sleeping well, you may be going through some rough times.

Luckily there are a lot of doable tips and tricks that help: start at 3 Simple Steps To Help Your Baby Sleep Through The Night or Ask A Question! for personalized expert advice.

But please do not feel frustrated because others expect your baby to sleep through, or if your friend's 3 week old baby sleeps for 8 hours in a row ... (there's even a good chance that isn't really true!).

Sleeping through the night is a very subtle baby milestone. There is not a fixed age, you cannot force it and it may come and go in phases.

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What does "baby sleeping through the night" mean?

First of all, let's define sleeping through. It is very much a subjective matter: some parents are thrilled to report their baby sleeps through doing 4 hours in a row, others won't be happy until baby sleeps a full 10 hours non-stop ...

Also, from researched baby sleep patterns, we know that babies and toddlers sleep in very short cycles. This means they basically wake up every 1-1,5 hour.

Sleeping through means that they doze off straight away without waking you up. Because of this, self soothing is such an important sleeping skill. So that gives us the following:



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What is sleeping through at different ages?

Sleeping through at different ages depends on:

• Maturity: how well is baby's sleep developed?

• Feeding needs: how long can baby be without food? 

Let's see what is reasonable to expect from a baby at different ages:

• Newborn: a newborn baby alternates sleep and wake times continuously, day and night. (Instill day/night difference in her newborn baby sleep schedule). She needs to feed on average every 2-4 hours. So 4 hours is about the maximum you can expect. Count your blessings if you have your newborn sleeping through more, but do make sure she feeds enough, it is not healthy for a newborn to be without milk for too long.

• 1 - 6 months: Baby gradually learns the difference between day and night (thanks to a well suited sleep schedule). Night time sleep becomes longer than daytime sleep. Baby still needs to feed 1-3 times during the night. Many babies will start making longer stretchs regularly towards 6 months, about 4-5 hours of sleep without feeding.

• 6 months - 1 year: In this second half year most babies gradually loose the need to feed at night. That is, they can go to 6-8 hours of sleep without food. However, many babies continue to wake out of hunger during growth spurts, a need for reassurance, or out of habit.

• 1 year and up: This is when we expect a baby or a toddler to sleep through the night. Uninterrupted sleep will gradually go from 8 to 12 hours. However, it is still very common and normal to have your child wake up at night once or twice for various reasons.

At every age, applying the baby sleep through night basics in a loving yet consistent and determined approach will give you and your baby the best sleep.

For further info on typical amounts of sleep refer to How much sleep is enough? Also check for common sleep disturbances to avoid them disturbing your baby's sleep.

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Some thoughts about baby sleeping through the night

I know parents who have even felt ashamed to be honest about their baby's sleep: if you have to tell someone that your baby sleeps very poorly at night, it may feel like you have failed. YOU HAVE NOT!

Yes, you can help your baby sleep well with the best possible sleep environment or guide her with a well suited sleep method but no, she will not sleep through consistently until she is ready.

And countless moms who have realised this, have reported that, the instant they relaxed about sleep and sleeping through, their baby suddenly slept much better!


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